Kindness Hero

Jacinda Ardern

How one leader brought kindness into the centre of political leadership

Jacinda Ardern became known globally not for what she believed, but for how she communicated those beliefs.

As Prime Minister of New Zealand from 2017 to 2023, she led during some of the country’s most challenging moments, from the Christchurch mosque attacks to the COVID-19 pandemic, volcanic eruptions, and economic uncertainty.

What made her distinctive wasn’t her policies. It was her tone.

She spoke with clarity, warmth, and steadiness, even when the pressure was immense. She modelled something rare in political leadership: the idea that kindness and strength could coexist.

This isn’t about whether you agreed with her decisions. It’s about what we can learn from how she communicated them.

What kindness looked like in practice

1. She named emotion publicly

After the Christchurch mosque attacks in 2019, Ardern didn’t retreat into formal political language. She spoke with visible grief and compassion.

She wore a hijab when meeting with the Muslim community, not as performance, but as respect. She said, ‘They are us,’ acknowledging shared humanity rather than creating distance through ‘thoughts and prayers’ rhetoric.

She refused to speak the gunman’s name publicly, focusing attention on the victims and their families instead.

This wasn’t avoidance of difficult topics. It was intentional framing: grief, care, and dignity could be centred, even in a moment of horror.


2. She communicated with clarity and calm

During the COVID-19 pandemic, Ardern became known for her clear, frequent communication. She didn’t speak in jargon or political deflection. She spoke as if explaining something important to someone she trusted to understand.

She held informal Facebook Live sessions from home, answering questions in casual clothing, making complex public health decisions feel accessible rather than distant.

Her famous line, ‘Go hard and go early,’ became shorthand for decisive action communicated with simplicity.

Again, this isn’t about the policies themselves. It’s about the communication style: steady, human, direct, and grounded.


3. She acknowledged imperfection

Ardern didn’t present herself as flawless. She spoke openly about the challenges of balancing leadership with motherhood. She admitted uncertainty when decisions were difficult.

When she stepped down as Prime Minister in 2023, she said simply, ‘I no longer have enough in the tank.’ We believe she modelled something powerful: that self-awareness and boundaries are not weakness.

For many, this honesty made her more relatable, not less credible.


4. She held firm boundaries with kindness

Kindness, for Ardern, didn’t mean avoiding difficult decisions or softening her stance to please everyone.

She was clear when announcing lockdowns, border closures, and other contentious measures. She didn’t apologise for leading. But she communicated those decisions with care for the people affected by them.

She demonstrated what this movement believes: that kindness is not passivity. It’s strength expressed with intention.

She held firm boundaries with kindness, proving that 'no' can be both clear and respectful.

What we disagree about doesn't change what we can learn

Many found some of Jacinda Ardern’s policies polarising. Some celebrated her leadership. Others strongly opposed it.

That division is real, and we’re not asking anyone to set aside their views.

But here’s what we believe her example offers, regardless of political perspective:

  • Tone matters. How we communicate a decision affects how people receive it.
  • Clarity reduces anxiety. People can handle difficulty more easily when they understand what’s happening and why.
  • Emotion isn’t weakness. Leaders who acknowledge emotion help others feel less alone.
  • Boundaries can be kind. Saying ‘no’ or ‘I can’t continue’ with honesty is more respectful than pretending otherwise.
  • Humanity isn’t performance. Showing up as a whole person, not a polished image, builds trust.


These principles apply beyond politics. They apply to how we communicate in families, workplaces, schools, and communities.

A leader who sparked conversation

Ardern’s leadership style sparked global conversation about what political leadership could look like.

Some saw her as a model of compassionate governance. Others saw her approach as too soft, or disagreed fundamentally with her decisions.

Both responses are valid.

But we believe the conversation itself matters. It asks: Can leaders be both kind and effective? Can strength and warmth coexist? Can we communicate difficult truths without dehumanising those affected?

These are questions worth exploring, whoever we are and whatever we believe.

Why her example matters

We believe Jacinda Ardern demonstrated that kindness in communication is not about agreeing with everyone or avoiding conflict.

It’s about:

  • Speaking with clarity and care
  • Acknowledging emotion without being overwhelmed by it
  • Holding boundaries without hostility
  • Leading from conviction while respecting those who disagree

She showed that kindness can be practised in high-pressure, high-stakes environments where disagreement is inevitable.

And that’s why we’re starting this series with her.

Not because we all agree with her policies.

But because her example offers something we can learn from, reflect on, and adapt, wherever we are.

A closing thought

Kindness Heroes aren’t perfect people. They’re people who, in specific moments, practised communication that reflected care, clarity, and respect, even under pressure.

Jacinda Ardern is one of those people.

Her example reminds us that how we speak, how we lead, and how we show up for others during difficulty can leave a lasting impression, far beyond the policies we support or oppose.

And that’s a lesson worth carrying forward.

This is the first in the Kindness Heroes series. Future articles will explore figures from different contexts, cultures, and time periods, all united by a shared thread: they used kindness as a tool for connection, leadership, and change.